To someone who has experienced a miscarriage.
5. What can I bring you? This is so much better than the generic, "Let me know if you need anything." A dear friend brought me a People magazine (about Charlie Sheen, not about babies), a bunch of DVDs, chocolate, and booze. It was the perfect combo.
4. This is terrible/horrible/unfair. A girl I barely know from work was so kind to me when she found out. She said, "Let's go to lunch and be angry!" In retrospect, that was one of the nicest things anyone said.
3. You will be in my prayers. This one might not be comforting to everyone, but I'm a religious person, and I like the idea of someone remembering me and my lost babies in prayer.
2. How are you feeling? Open ended questions like this allow the person to just vent, cry, whatever.
1. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Acknowledging the loss is so important. Expressing your sympathy is important too. ESPECIALLY if you are a family member. I can't stress this enough. If you are a brother, sister, in law, parent, or dear friend, you had a vested interested in that baby as well. You might think, ugh, I just don't know what do say. It's so awkward. Man or woman up and say I'm sorry. Express sympathy. It's the right thing to do.