So there's this normal-seeming guy at work. He's one of those people who got married recently and had a baby right away. Pretty much every time I've run into him in the last year he has asked the same question:
"So.... are you guys thinking about having kids soon?"
I've demurred several times. Finally after my second miscarriage I said something like:
"I just had a miscarriage."
So he's like, "Oh. I have a book for you to read."
Weeks and months went by and I never heard any more about the book. I figured I had already read it, since there are approximately 2.7 books about miscarriage in the world.
Suddenly, last week, he drops by my office to give me a book called Supernatural Childbirth.
Omg, you guys.
Here are some of the claims in the book:
- all you need to do is pray and you are GUARANTEED children by God
- if you're having problems conceiving you are not praying enough
- God doesn't want you to have miscarriages, and if you're having them it's Satan, and you haven't prayed enough
- you can pray for AND God will grant you a pain-free delivery
- all birth defects are caused by Satan, and you just didn't pray enough
- women are cursed by Satan from back in the Garden of Eden
- you can select the gender, eye color, and hair color of your future child with prayer
The author claims that she was once declared infertile and then she prayed her way out of it. Now she has 4 healthy children! (Of course she gave no actual details of her supposed infertility.)
The book is full of testimonials about people who read her book and listened to her tape. They are like, "I had two miscarriages and then I started listening to your tape EVERY DAY. Now I have a beautiful baby boy!"
I wanted to shred the book to bits (might still do) and scream at this Jackie Mize for espousing complete bull shit (might still do).
But on the whole, it just makes me sad. I'm deeply saddened by this book and for the women who are desperately trying to pray their way out of tragic fertility problems that are completely out of their control.
It makes me sad that stereotypes about woman and infertility persist because of books like this one.
It makes me sad that my coworker would own and PASS ON a book like this.
It's sad and pathetic that this woman looks at her 4 healthy children and says, "I did this. Me and my amazing faith."
How narrow-minded. How sacrilegious. How pathetic.